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Four Tactics to Control Your Temper

Monday, October 26th, 2009

 

Although a basic part of our emotional makeup, controlling our temper is very important to keep a happy lifestyle.If you find that your temper shows itself regularly, your familly may start to believe you have a real problem controlling your temper. Sometimes it’s easy to get the wrong end of the stick, or overreact after a bad day and take it out on your friends.

Showing anger is part of our make up, so it’s not really a surprise when it rears its head, the trouble is that if we keep it inside, it only takes a small thing later for us to let go of all that pent up anger in one large outpouring. That’s when those around us see and think we have a problem, but we do not.

So, before you let your anger destroy your relationship totally, take a look at the following advice to assist you control your temper.

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When you feel your anger coming, pause and examine yourself. This is the moment to pause and look at yourself to think about whether or not you have a problem with your temper. You must find out the truth here, so be cool, calm and collected with yourself .Try and be objective, and ask what would you think of yourself from someone else’s perspective”

Just by reading this article is a sign that you think you may have an anger problem. Do you feel a desire to break things when exploding? If this is the case, then you have a problem. You need to stop living in denial and admit it – facing up to a problem is the first step towards resolution, you are then free to do what is necessary to find a solution.

We all have a temper, and with it comes a choice – you can choose to pause and take a deep breath, or you can store it up inside until you feel you’ve been jerked around enough, at which time you go off like a volcano. Should you feel the desire to smash your posessions and your relationships, stop and try to relax. Breath deeply and evenly for about fifteen seconds and then see if you feel calmer – think of a fish, opening it’s mouth slowly, but regularly – that’s how you should be breathing. Now this method is effective for more trivial things, like treading in dog poo, but is probably not enough for the bigger and more irritating things in life.

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Whilst stopping and counting to ten, tell yourself that that nothing positive is ever achieved when you explode. This is logic, use it. You’re only hurting yourself and  the way others perceive you. What do you think of others when you see them lose their temper? Mad right? Do you want other people to think you are ignorant as well? This is a great way to stop getting angry as it makes you examine your reactions from the angle of another person. So, stop, think, put aside your emotions and apply some logic. This method works, but you have to actually apply yourself to doing it!

When you next feel like having a “full and frank exchange of views”, you may want to take a moment, and see if you can conjure up something funny in your head and often, within moments of doing so, your anger should dissipate.

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Emotional Issues of Today

Sunday, September 6th, 2009

One unique thing about being human are the emotions we get to experience. Emotions are very powerful parts of being human.Emotions that we experience like joy, love, anger or even pain. are very powerful emotions we experience.But quite a few times it is because of that very fact that we are emotional that can lead to problems.

I would like to talk about two very powerful emotions that in a few situations, require professional attention.They are depression and anger.  Two seemingly different types of emotions but both can lead to major problems.  I have seen it first hand as a family counselor in San Diego.

I say it is a big problem, both of them, because either one can lead to violence.In situations such as anger, it sometimes leads to violence against other people.  In the case of depression it can lead to cases of violence against one’s self.

When you are talking about anger it is a very volatile emotion.As I said earlier, it is an emotion that has to be taken control of.  Because as we well know a lot of people do bad things when they are angry.It does not necessarily need to be physical, it also can come in the form of emotions.  If that is the case you need to address it through anger management counseling.

Now in regards to depression, this is a dangerous problem as well.It is very dangerous because a lot of times you might not even be aware of it.  I mean you might not know if a loved one is experiencing depression.When that occurs, bad things can happen that weren’t planned.  Things like suicide.  I have seen it happen to often doing depression counseling.

If you sense you are in a state of depression, treat it immediately.  Because before you know it, it can go too far.The people you know and love may not even be aware of it.When that occurs it may be too late.So find help quickly.It can be fixed. 

As you will notice, emotions are in general good things.  But they also can cause problems.By learning how to handle issues and problems, emotions can be of benefit.  Whether you do it by yourself or someone else, take care of it.

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Fighting emotional problems of the day

Sunday, September 6th, 2009

One of the special things we get to experience as human beings are emotions. Emotions are very powerful parts of being human.  Emotions such as love, joy, pain, anger, etc. are very powerful emotions we experience.  But often times it is because we are so emotional we can get into trouble.

I would like to address a couple of strong emotions that sometimes needs professional help.They are depression and anger.Two emotions that seem very different from one another can both start some very major problems.  I have seen it first hand as a family counselor in San Diego.

I say it is a big problem, both of them, because either one can lead to violence.In the problems like anger, it sometimes causes violence to erupt against others.In situations of depression, the results can be use of violence against themselves.

When you are referring to things like anger, it is a very emotionally charged situation.As I said earlier, it is an emotion that has to be taken control of.Because as you probably are already aware, people will do bad things if they are very angry.  It doesn’t have to be physical, it can also be emotional.  If that is the case you need to address it through anger management counseling.

Now in regards to depression, this is a dangerous problem as well.It is a dangerous problems, because sometimes you might not even know about it.  I mean you might not know if a loved one is experiencing depression.  When that happens, terrible things happen that weren’t expected.  Things like suicide.  I have seen it happen to often doing depression counseling.

If you know you are going through some depression, make sure you treat it quickly.Because before you realize it, it might have already gone too far.  Your loved ones may not even notice.When that situation takes placce it could be too little too late.  So address it early.  It can be helped. 

As you will notice, emotions are in general good things.  But they also can cause problems.  By learning to deal with the problem emotions can be helpful.It matters not how you take care of it, either you or somebody else addresses it, but be sure to take care of it.

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