Whatever your reasons for wanting your ex back, you may simply still love your ex or you may be filled with dread at the thought of starting the dating game all over again. You need to do something fast to get that “I want my ex back” noise bang bang banging around in your head, OUT of your head.

Waiting around at this point won’t do you any good at all. First off the “I want my ex back” torture in your head won’t get any easier, it’ll get worse with time. Secondly you need to act fast before your ex partner starts over with someone else and your chance may be blown.

I don’t know at what stage your split is currently at, but I assume from the page title “I want my ex back” that first, you have an ex, so it’s gone far enough to split, and second, you want them back so you aren’t together as a couple any longer.

I hope you haven’t been doing any of the usual stuff like begging and pleading with your ex ‘coz they will simply hate that all the more. Even worse if you’ve been drunk dialling that could be a real killer.

At this stage you need to get back in contact, and friendly contact if at all possible. And there’s a slightly sneaky way to achieve this. Send your ex a nice handwritten letter. Yes a letter.

A handwritten letter will make them curious as soon as they see it. The contents are designed to make them get in touch with you.

Enough enough you say, I want my ex back, what do I write?

Without going into too much detail you need to tell them that you’d like to thank them in person if they’d mind getting in touch with you. Now, this raises their curiosity and their pride.

We all like to be thanked and praised; this is where our pride kicks in. Secondly the curiosity kicks in and they start to think “why”.

You can’t just make this stuff up and expect them to call you. You need a proper reason to thank them, one that won’t sound like a load of bull. But what better reason than you’ve seen the light, the split was the right thing to do and you are thankful now that your head is clear and you are thinking straight.

Something along those lines will do the job.

Here’s a little tip, when they call, have some stuff ready in the background. Get their favourite song going in the background but loud enough for them to hear down the phone. This triggers a psychological response and they start to remember good times and to associate you with their favourite song.

This opening move won’t do the job on its own though, you need to get a full on gameplan going if you want to banish that “I want my ex back” torture and replace it with “I got my ex back”.

Check out the video above for a few more moves to help you along the way.

I don’t know how far your breakup has gone, but if you are asking yourself the question “how to save my marriage“, then I can help you at least make the first move towards getting your marriage back on track.

If you are not even communicating then the first thing you need to do is open a line of communication with your partner. I won’t call your partner your “ex”, because we hope it hasn’t gone that far yet.

Although if your breakup has gone to the point where you are referring to your partner as your “ex”, then don’t worry, all is not lost even at this stage. There are things you can do to save your marriage.

To almost guarantee that you get your calls returned you can use a tactic that plays into your partners curiosity and vanity. We’re all curios to a certain extent and we all have that little self interest streak. By using these and combining them you can almost cast a spell on your partner to kick off your plan to “save my marriage”.

You call and leave a message along the lines of  “Hi it’s me, I wanted to say how much I appreciate what you’ve done for me and would love to thank you in person. Would you call me?”

They will be curios here, and there’s also an element of self interest there. They will be thinking “They want to thank me! What did I do? I need to find out”

A warning though, you need to know what they did for you before they call. You can’t just say thanks and hope they aren’t going to ask. Get something in your head. Any small thing will do, but it’s got to be believable. No nonsense here or you may blow the chance to save your marriage.

A fail safe reason is to say you’ve come to realise that the split is doing you good, you’re thinking straight now and are feeling much better about the future, and you’d like to thank them for making you realise this.

But be warned again here, this tactic can open the door for you but without a solid plan to move forward chances are you will move backward and your marriage won’t be saved.

If you can’t see yourself making that call, maybe because you think things have gone past that, then watch this video for another opening technique that might help. It doesn’t involve making a call but instead a hand written letter. Just as powerful nonetheless, and could be the first step to saving your marriage.

Q – “How To Save My Marriage?” A – “Click here to save your marriage.“

You should have an idea for an opening move now, but like I said earlier, you won’t save your marriage without a firm plan to follow after the opening move.

Don’t be scared to make this opening move, you are obviously here ’cause you are hurting and seek an answer to your “how to save my marriage” question. If you’ve come this far in your quest, don’t give up now. Take the next step to get your ex back and save your marriage.

What have you got to lose? You’re currently separated or maybe about to, how much worse can it get? It can’t really but I can tell you this from experience, it can get better.

It’s up to you now. You know how to save your marriage, or at least you have the opening move. Good luck with it.

Of course there are exceptions. If you’ve slept with your ex’s brother/sister/best friend/mother/father *delete as applicable, then it’s going to be difficult. Not immpossible, but very difficult.

If you hgaven’t committed either of the above sins then you’re in luck, I can help you to answer that nagging “how can I get back with my ex” question.

Depending on how you broke up, this tactic works for an awful lot of breakup reasons. You write your ex a handwritten letter. Simple as that! This will get your foot in the door 95% of the time.

See, we all love to receive letters. Not bills of course, but we like getting letters delivered. Makes us feel special.

Don’t ask me why, it just does. We’re a strange breed of people. Maybe it goes back to when we were kids. Mail never came for us but we wished for it every time the mail was delivered.

Anyway, a personal handwritten letter will help you get back with your ex. Or at least it will be the key to opening up a line of conversation.

What do you put in the letter? Well I think it’s better to listen to a guy who gets thousand of ex’s back every day of the week explain it a whole lot better than I can.

Whatch this video….

Q – “How can I get back with my ex?”      A – “Click here to learn more“

So, now you have a better idea what to do and more importantly why, you can go and start to answer your own question “how can I get back with my ex“.

You know most people who break up never get back with their ex’s because they are either scared or stubborn and never make that first move when it’s oh so easy to do.

How hard is it to send your ex a letter in the post? What’s the worst that can happen? They don’t answer you at all. Well they are already ignoring you, you’ve broke up. It can’t get any worse than that.

Go and make a start to get your ex back. They gotta be worth it, if they weren’t you wouldn’t be here searching for solutions and tricks to get back with your ex.